Mr A HFJ Grooming

 Mr A is in his early 40s, works as a real estate agent, and drives a nice old sedan.

 I got to know him in one of the flower places in singapore, we stroke up a conversation and shared a couple of drinks.

 I was quite impressed with his claims, he claims that he spent over 400,000 SGD over the last few years, and yet for all of the money that he spent.

 He did not managed to score with any of the singers....

 It was only later, after i observed him a few times, that i found the problem. He likes to put on his worst face forward in front of the girls, he likes to act like a fool, play like a fool and worst of all, speak in a very crass and rude way to all of the girls.
 Basically it is a self defeating self actualization game.
 And he had a much worst problem than me in terms of dealing with the  hang flower situation.

 When he goes into a place, he feels obligated to hang flowers for the manager, singer manager, musician and of course his girl and the girls of his friends. So in a typical evening at a single location, he can easily blow 300-400 just on the above few items.

 So all good and fine you might say, however he had another aspect which is truly scary.

 He will borrow money, lying through his teeth, bare face lies in order to get the cash fix for the moment.

 I observed it through a period of 3 weeks, and it was true, he will borrow lets say 500 from me, then will return, when required the first time, than maybe another small loan, and it accumulates.

 So he might crouched it in such a way, that as i am going to my own place, he will accompany me, but as he is short of cash, can i lend him a few hundred dollars, so that he can spend on the girl.

Well the fool that i am, i have lent him 800 bucks, and it looks as though it is money down the drain.

The funniest thing happened to me today, he gave me a ring complaining about how he had to spend 200 the other day etc, I told him to speak to a mutual friend, the mutual friend might have contacts with illegal money lender, that can lend him money at exorbitant rates.

Well, he said " I am not that close with that person, if you trust me, why not you lend on my behalf, and i can pay you back when my money comes in"

 The morale of the story.
 "Do not lend to patrons of Hang Flower Joints".